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team exercises
i love / hate myself because...
In order to be successful at anything big in life it is important
to love yourself in order to prevail in whatever goals you
set for yourself. If you love, accept, and appreciate yourself and
have confidence in yourself, life goes better. Kind of like how
Justin talks about why men want the love of a woman, unconditional
love - it gives you that competitive edge, makes you think you are
better than you really are and helps you be confident and succeed.
Everyone has things they are proud of, admire, appreciate, and
love about themselves. Have each man look inside write down
a list of those things - 1 or 2 minutes. Then and go around to each
man and let him read off those things starting each thing with ...
I am proud of.... I love that I.... etc. Show them how by going first.
Then have the men think about what they are ashamed of, hate
about themselves or wish were different and list them - 2 minutes.
Encourage them to go deep and reveal, take off the masks. That
this is a safe space to do it.
Then go around and have them read off the list starting each thing
with ...i am ashamed that... i hate myself for...., etc. If they don't, then
correct them with how to say it. You model it first and go really
deep with real shameful, hateful stuff you have on yourself.
Lastly, talk about the concept of loving yourself, that you are a
whole being - made up of everything including the things you
hate and the things you love about yourself on that list. You go
first, reading the list of hates, but his time starting each thing with...
I love myself because... I appreciate..., etc. Correct them if they forget to.
This exercise is about healing and acceptance, a first step toward
finding the source of your power as a man. Let the men say what their experience was.
Submitted by Eric Berke
