BY MEN FOR MEN
making decisions for your woman?
by stauder
Men,
A couple weeks ago my woman said something in front of some people we were playing volleyball that kind of irked me. It was no big deal so I shrugged it off without saying anything to her about it. A few days later I was reading a chapter from The Way of the Superior Man by David Deida (of which most of you are intimately familiar). This particular chapter was about making decisions. In summary, the chapter relayed that making decisions is a masculine trait that men can give as a gift to our women. Women would often prefer to stay in the gray area and have their lives be lead by their feelings in the moment. As men, we can help our women stay in a feminine by making the decision that concern us both. It also said women that are left to make decisions by their man become more and more masculine in the relationship. I learned much of this before I started Karen 2 1/2 years ago and have been very comfortable making decision for the most part.
The chapter took me right back to the incident a few days before where she had asked me to make a decision about something (trivial and not worth mentioning). I made the wrong decision and on the day in question she was giving me a hard time to one of her friends. After reading this chapter, I realized I had not REALLY shrugged it off and moved on, that I was still carrying it. I realized that if I am going to give her the gift of making the decisions about little things and big things that I want her support me in the outcome of those decisions, good or bad, right or wrong. This was one of those times when it was evident that I needed to let her know how I felt without discuss my feelings. We had a brief conversation about it, I let her know how I felt in that moment, she thanked me for opening up and telling her about this. It was a brief interaction, but one that I think was necessary to keep things clean and positive between us, and one that probably would not have happened if I were not on a men’s team.
Thank you,
Stauder
A couple weeks ago my woman said something in front of some people we were playing volleyball that kind of irked me. It was no big deal so I shrugged it off without saying anything to her about it. A few days later I was reading a chapter from The Way of the Superior Man by David Deida (of which most of you are intimately familiar). This particular chapter was about making decisions. In summary, the chapter relayed that making decisions is a masculine trait that men can give as a gift to our women. Women would often prefer to stay in the gray area and have their lives be lead by their feelings in the moment. As men, we can help our women stay in a feminine by making the decision that concern us both. It also said women that are left to make decisions by their man become more and more masculine in the relationship. I learned much of this before I started Karen 2 1/2 years ago and have been very comfortable making decision for the most part.
The chapter took me right back to the incident a few days before where she had asked me to make a decision about something (trivial and not worth mentioning). I made the wrong decision and on the day in question she was giving me a hard time to one of her friends. After reading this chapter, I realized I had not REALLY shrugged it off and moved on, that I was still carrying it. I realized that if I am going to give her the gift of making the decisions about little things and big things that I want her support me in the outcome of those decisions, good or bad, right or wrong. This was one of those times when it was evident that I needed to let her know how I felt without discuss my feelings. We had a brief conversation about it, I let her know how I felt in that moment, she thanked me for opening up and telling her about this. It was a brief interaction, but one that I think was necessary to keep things clean and positive between us, and one that probably would not have happened if I were not on a men’s team.
Thank you,
Stauder
