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Legacy Discovery related exercise
dynamics of purpose
How many men here are clear about what their purpose in life is?
Ask some of the men to step forward and state their purpose.
{optional, time permitting} Ask the men if they get what the man said.
{optional, time permitting} Having listened to the men who have purpose, does anyone have anything to say about what they noticed about men having purpose or the types of purposes they hear.
Can any man relate to or reveal what it is like to be disconnected from purpose or without purpose in their life, or during a time then they had not yet really figured it out?
[Take a few responses]
Some men are very purposeful, while others have less of an idea what their purpose is.
If you do not know what your purpose is in life, you will likely be serving someone else’s.
I will repeat this, because it’s an important aspect of behavior, and we will base the rest of this exercise on it:
If you do not know what your purpose is in life, you will likely be serving someone else’s.
Serving another’s purpose can be a very good thing, as long as we are aware that this is what we are doing. Football teams achieve victory by acting on a common purpose. The mature warrior serves the purposes of the kingdom ordered by his king. However, in other cases serving another’s purpose may actually be dangerous.
Can anyone recall a time when they benefitted from serving someone else’s purpose. Or suffered from doing so? Tell us how that worked?
[Take a few responses]
Now we are going to break into small circles and share about the dynamics of purpose in relationships. We are going to explore the topic:
Influencing others to follow a purpose is a normal way of exercising power.
It is your choice, conscious or unconscious, whether you will serve the purposes of others or serve your own purpose. We may be unaware of how we are serving the purposes of others, so in the small circles will attempt to become aware of this so that we can make choices that will create the legacy we want to leave.
Questions:
1. Who are the people in your life that want you to serve their purpose?
2. How do they influence you to serve their purpose? What are their actions?
3. What does serving another’s purpose accomplish for you? Is there a payoff?
4. Are there people in your life who you are influencing to serve your purpose?
5. How do you influence those people?
6. What different choices do you want to make?
[Bring the men back into a single circle]
Is there anything anybody has to say about what they just experienced?
[Take a few responses, help draw the men out]
We spend a lot of time at Legacy Discovery preparing the men who participate to find a way to powerfully connect themselves to their personal life purpose. I hope to see the men here come to that event to get that connection.
[the rest here should fit the occaision, mood, etc]
[could be another man] Based on this, who here wants to attend Legacy Discovery?
Mr. X – Give these men forms to begin filling out while we take a break.
Thank you.
Ask some of the men to step forward and state their purpose.
{optional, time permitting} Ask the men if they get what the man said.
{optional, time permitting} Having listened to the men who have purpose, does anyone have anything to say about what they noticed about men having purpose or the types of purposes they hear.
Can any man relate to or reveal what it is like to be disconnected from purpose or without purpose in their life, or during a time then they had not yet really figured it out?
[Take a few responses]
Some men are very purposeful, while others have less of an idea what their purpose is.
If you do not know what your purpose is in life, you will likely be serving someone else’s.
I will repeat this, because it’s an important aspect of behavior, and we will base the rest of this exercise on it:
If you do not know what your purpose is in life, you will likely be serving someone else’s.
Serving another’s purpose can be a very good thing, as long as we are aware that this is what we are doing. Football teams achieve victory by acting on a common purpose. The mature warrior serves the purposes of the kingdom ordered by his king. However, in other cases serving another’s purpose may actually be dangerous.
Can anyone recall a time when they benefitted from serving someone else’s purpose. Or suffered from doing so? Tell us how that worked?
[Take a few responses]
Now we are going to break into small circles and share about the dynamics of purpose in relationships. We are going to explore the topic:
Influencing others to follow a purpose is a normal way of exercising power.
It is your choice, conscious or unconscious, whether you will serve the purposes of others or serve your own purpose. We may be unaware of how we are serving the purposes of others, so in the small circles will attempt to become aware of this so that we can make choices that will create the legacy we want to leave.
Questions:
1. Who are the people in your life that want you to serve their purpose?
2. How do they influence you to serve their purpose? What are their actions?
3. What does serving another’s purpose accomplish for you? Is there a payoff?
4. Are there people in your life who you are influencing to serve your purpose?
5. How do you influence those people?
6. What different choices do you want to make?
[Bring the men back into a single circle]
Is there anything anybody has to say about what they just experienced?
[Take a few responses, help draw the men out]
We spend a lot of time at Legacy Discovery preparing the men who participate to find a way to powerfully connect themselves to their personal life purpose. I hope to see the men here come to that event to get that connection.
[the rest here should fit the occaision, mood, etc]
[could be another man] Based on this, who here wants to attend Legacy Discovery?
Mr. X – Give these men forms to begin filling out while we take a break.
Thank you.
